True Love Does Not Judge You And Does Not Limit You

We all want to meet true love. However, unconsciously we may do everything to drive it away. For example, starting a relationship out of fear of being alone, or lacking the assertiveness necessary to manage it (or end it in a healthy way, as the case may be) can prevent true love from knocking on our door.

With all these premises, what we believe to be “love” will put limitations on us, restrict our freedom and everything will revolve around fear and fear.

True love is not emotional dependency

Sometimes, for various reasons, we confuse true love with emotional dependency . For this reason, we believe certain phrases such as “if he is jealous, he loves you” or “love is possession” …

In this way, we judge our partner if he is not jealous, we want him to show that we are his property and, with all this, where is true love? It is not there, as it has become something that limits and prevents growth. When, in reality, love allows us to be better people every day, to advance in life, to mature.

When love limits, its days are numbered. Because the beliefs that cover it override the feeling that it really is and all that it implies. At the moment in which we consider it true that loving someone supposes depending, we do not love, we need. Therefore, we are very far from being able to meet true love.

Do not judge your past, because live in the present

Something that characterizes true love is that it will never judge your past. That is, the mistakes that you may have made with other couples there is no reason to relive them in the present.

If someone is with you, wants to start a relationship with you and form a life project together, they do not have to judge those actions that have been part of your experience. For example, you may have been unfaithful or emotionally dependent on a partner for a long time. Maybe you didn’t allow yourself to be the best parent in the past, or you weren’t entirely sincere in your relationship.

Whatever it is, the person you met shouldn’t be judging all of this. Well, it is assumed that if you are aware of everything mentioned, it is that you have learned, you have been critical of yourself and understood that you can improve.

In the event that none of this happens, that you may be afraid that the person next to you will judge your past because, if you are sincere, that person will leave, you have to keep in mind that this is not true love.

You are not allowing yourself to be honest. Express your experiences and everything you have learned from them. You are not the same person you were a few years ago. So, if your potential partner judges you for everything you’ve lived, experienced, and all the mistakes you’ve made, it’s not what you’re looking for, because that’s not true love.

In search of a mature love

True love can be equated to what we know as mature love. A calmer love, with very solid foundations and that arises once the infatuation phase is over. This love is characterized by a series of guidelines on which we will reflect below:

• Accept the past without judging, since it is impossible to change it and, also, it is an experience that has led to enriching learning.
• You do not want to change the other person, because true love implies fully accepting the other. Only then can a healthy connection and a fulfilling relationship be established.
• He knows that he does not need the other person to be happy, but he chooses her as a life partner to live a full love experience and that allows both members to enjoy and learn life together.

• It never limits the future of one of the members, but enhances the growth of each one by driving them to achieve their goals.

Mature love never makes us small, but invites us to grow. Because the couple would never have to make us feel that our world is stagnating or going backwards, but is moving forward.

Have you found true love?