Rocket Relationships: Don’t Look Back No Matter What

Most rocket relationships are linked to each other, since the person does not look complete if they are alone and need someone else to feel fulfilled

Rocket relationships, a term created by the psychologist Silvia Congost, are nothing more than those relationships that start very quickly and progress rapidly. Perhaps, throughout your life, you have witnessed these types of relationships. People who are already living together at 2 months, who are expecting a child at 6 months or who get married after a year.

They are relationships that progress very quickly, in which the members that make them up do not take the time to get to know each other well. For the infatuation phase to pass and one can see if the relationship is ready to start a mature love or, on the contrary, it must be dissolved.

Rocket relationships and low self-esteem

These types of rocket relationships have their origin in a clear low self-esteem. The fear of being rejected, of not finding someone who loves us, or of being alone terrifies us.

• For this reason, we initiate relationships quickly to “catch the other” and not run away.
• We need someone by our side to approve us, to reaffirm us, to give us everything that we do not know how to give ourselves.
• These types of relationships can look great in people who are emotionally dependent. People with this psychological state give themselves in such a way to the other that their life is that of the couple.

Without the partner they are not happy, without the partner they are lost. Therefore, they cling to whoever it is so as not to feel that emptiness that prevents them from being free and independent.

What happens if the person they are with leaves them? What they do is start another relationship quickly. In fact, people with dependency have more than one rocket relationship.

When they choose me, but I don’t choose

Rocket relationships are characterized, too, because people do not choose that other with whom they are going to start a relationship. Why do we say they don’t choose it?

Because at no point do they wonder if they like it or not. Nor do they take time to observe what that person is like from a certain perspective.

We all know that in the infatuation phase it seems that we have a veil before our eyes that prevents us from seeing the bad. However, in rocket relationships, what moves people not to see the negative is the need to be in a relationship.

Therefore, the first person who approaches them and shows a minimum of interest in them, will be the one they consider appropriate.

However, they never wonder if they like it. For this reason, they often deceive themselves. For example, if that person who has noticed me does not like me physically, he will do so over time, because I will concentrate on thinking that “the physical is not what matters.”

Taking time out before starting a relationship

Rocket relationships are characterized by starting like this, quickly. There is no true awareness of what it means to enter a relationship without knowing the other person.

It is always necessary to take time, either to heal a previous relationship and pass the grieving stage, or to allow ourselves to know that person and not act based on our need not to be alone.

The big consequence of rocket relationships is that they usually go wrong. Over time, we see the true face of that person who can be someone who mistreats, humiliates, homophobic, unfaithful, manipulative or also dependent.

Ultimately, it becomes a toxic relationship with someone who can do us real harm.

To have healthy relationships it will be necessary to question the beliefs that push us to enter into these types of relationships. Likewise, we must solve any insecurity and possible lack of self-esteem that prevents us from feeling like complete beings.

There is nothing better than choosing a partner consciously and taking the time to get to know them. If it’s the right person, great; if it is not, nothing happens. There is nothing wrong with being alone.