I Prefer A Dignified Solitude To A False Company

Maybe you also know what it’s like to live with a fake company. It is about those affective relationships in which one of the two people prioritizes only himself. In these cases there are those who seek to exclusively satisfy their own interests and, furthermore, they do so without showing sincerity in their intentions.

Thus, sometimes we find that certain links are not what they seem or as we thought at first. In fact, feeling helpless around the person we love can be a most bitter experience.

For this reason, it is sometimes said that “a dignified solitude is preferable to a false company”. We invite you to reflect on these questions.

The pain of experiencing false company

A first aspect to take into account is that unhappy relationships are associated with multiple factors. So these are not always based on one of the two offering false company or showing selfish or limiting attitudes.

• There are those who ‘do not know how to love’. Perhaps because he does not know what it means to share, attend to the couple and take care of the details that this commitment requires.
• Likewise, there are people with previous emotional deficiencies. Such experiences then come to affect the type of interactions that such individuals establish with others.

In any case, what the other perceives is a lack of connection with that friend or partner next to him. Let’s see what happens if the imbalance is mainly associated with the particular ambitions of one of the members.

When the only thing that matters is individual interest

The false commitment is one that is built looking only for one’s own interests. Among the various purposes that fuel this inclination are:

• The impulse to avoid loneliness at any price and with whoever.

• The desire to formalize a relationship for economic reasons or to respond to certain social aspirations.
• The mere need to feel loved, cared for and cared for, but with no intention of offering or contributing the same.

Faced with such positions, inequalities will become apparent sooner or later. That is to say, there is a part that invests and cares, but the other only hopes is to ‘receive’.

If, in addition, that person resists change and perseveres in such an attitude, failure ends up representing a probable outcome. Because often this behavior produces suffering in that other who does get involved and ‘gives’

In these circumstances, reacting in time is certainly considered a healthy alternative. Therefore, if we perceive that we are with a ‘false company’, moving away will save us future troubles, as well as the continuous negative emotions that the situation entails.

A whole solitude is preferable to a false company

If someone violates their own well-being and balance to the point of making us feel sad, angry or frustrated constantly, why do we want to have them around? Is that pain what we intend to continue accumulating?

Perhaps it is time to let go, to separate ourselves from those ties that hurt us and face that abysmal fear of loneliness. Because, despite the negative social view of it, such stigma responds more to common conventions than to objective data.

• Do we really think that it is necessary to be committed to obtain happiness?
• Is having even a false company is essential for others to accept us?
• What satisfaction do we experience on an individual level? Will that friendship or that couple be able to complete what we ourselves lack?

Perhaps we find ourselves before the opportunity to grow as people, mature and reorganize all those projects that motivate us. More than the fear of being alone, letting someone make our existence bitter may be an even riskier matter.

Why live someone else’s plans?

Alone, with friends, family or a lover, happiness is a possible aspiration. Because if we choose freely, we will place ourselves in the optimal position to make mistakes and initiate new challenges.

If we are in a couple, shared illusions will prevent someone from losing or getting hurt. Therefore, embarking on joint activities and giving and receiving so that the relationship flows will be essential conditions for both partners to move forward together.

Life is too short to respond to other people’s plans by putting off your own dreams.