Accept Instead Of Waiting, You Will Have Less Disappointment

How many disappointments have you suffered? You have expected what you considered logical to receive from friends, family and acquaintances. However, nothing has been as and as you supposed. You have had your illusions and that has ended in a great disappointment. Learn to accept instead of waiting, you will experience fewer disappointments.

We do not know why, but our first relationships have always been with this error. We assume certain actions on the part of others that, in the end, do not usually occur. One disappointment after another that makes us feel insecure about others.

Animals don’t wait, they accept

We consider ourselves superior, however many times we should turn our eyes to those beings that surround us, many of whom have become our pets.

Animals never know of disappointments, not only because they live in the present and do not think about the past or the future, but because they learn to accept everything that happens, be it good or bad.

Take, for example, a rabbit. This inestimable mammal will never trust the good weather tomorrow to be able to go out in search of food. You will not even have in mind the hope of receiving your favorite snack from your human friend.

Will the rabbit be sad if it rains tomorrow or its owner does not offer it that sweet so pleasant for the palate? No way. He is happy being what he is. A rabbit

However,  our happiness does vary in relation to what we want to obtain from others.

• If that “good morning” message from your partner does not arrive, your day will not be positive.
• If your boss gets a little “bossy”, you will be in a nutshell most of your workday.

Many people are even affected by the weather itself. A rainy day can be disastrous for your performance and motivation. Even smash previously organized plans.

Live with fewer disappointments

Our social relationships are full of assumptions and illusions about what others should give us or provide us with. Many of these things are learned, here we will see some examples:

• My partner must be affectionate with me, only then will I know that he loves me and that he wants me. But what if that person is distant and doesn’t meet the “perfect match” pattern?

• My friend has connected, has seen my message and has not replied. You get angry because you expect an answer in the moment, without taking into account that, perhaps, your friend may find something unwell.
• The bad weather has prevented me from going for a run, since on television they said it would be sunny, but in reality it is raining. You feel very frustrated and sad. The weather has ruined your plans.

If you realize it, you are being a bit selfish. You want things to happen as you think. When this is not the case, negative emotions overwhelm you. They have been contrary to you!

You can’t control the weather, but why does the rain prevent you from doing what you had in mind? Many people run under it. Put on a raincoat and you’re done.

If your friend has not answered you, have you not thought that he is talking to someone more important, such as his father? Perhaps you are having a conversation that cannot wait because of its severity.

Also, they may not want to speak right now or what they have to say can wait until later. Surely you have not wanted to respond to someone more than once when you had the opportunity, right?

In the world of the couple, we create fantasies around how it has to be, without taking into account that we are different and that each relationship is different from another.

Run away from the pain that disappointments cause

Escape from all the damage that disappointments cause, stop waiting for others to act as you recreate it in your mind. People are unpredictable, unique, and continually surprise us.

Many of them will hurt you, so it is better not to wait for things that will never come. In this way, when you realize that your friend has lied to you or that your partner has cheated on you, it will not hurt as much as if you had thought that everything would be ideal and perfect.

Nothing will happen as you think. So let’s start being more like animals. To enjoy being, simply, human beings. But, above all, to accept that we are not perfect and that we make mistakes.

Don’t let a sour face or a rainy day spoil how good you felt this morning when you woke up.

Just enjoy. Both good and bad. From the latter, at least, we can learn something, don’t you think?